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  Can't get work after pioneering

  by ekruks in

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  i was just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and can advise me?.

  like many here, i was bought up as a jw, with full-time service (bethel, pioneer) the only career option held out in front of me.

  i wanted to take a government loan and go to university, but was forced not to, labelled 'materialistic'.. i became a pioneer / window cleaner - round here, almost all pioneer brothers window clean, unless they are retired or have a rich daddy.

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  Joe Grundy

  ekruks: You have my sympathy (I never was a JW). Life can be difficult in the UK right now. Two questions: how bad is the CFS/ME, and are you ready to get out of the JW stuff and make a new life? (Oh, and a third, is the JW treadmill contributing to the CFS/ME?).

  To be honest, I think that degrees have become seriously devalued here in the UK and increasingly I see reports that employers tend to disregard them because of their experiences.

  I have a friend who came out of the army and found it difficult to find a job. His technique was to approach potential employers, offer them a day's free work and bet them that when they'd seen what he was like they would take him on. They always did.

  Minimum wage in the UK now is just over £6/hour (c.$9.50) which is not a lot to live on, but it's a start. One area of work in which there are ALWAYS job adverts (at least where I live) is Care Assistants in nursing homes. Not everybody's cup of tea, I agree, but usually there is overtime available, sometimes staff accommodation, and the opportunity for in-job training with nationally-recognised qualifications. If you find it easy to 'relate' to people it may be an option which could lead to other things.

  There IS high unemployment here in the UK, no doubt, but a proportion of those unemployed have no intention of taking a job because they have worked out how to use the social security system to their advantage. I believe that there are still opportunities for those who are adaptable and prepared to work hard. Smaller, local employers who you can talk to face to face may be your best bet.
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  New Arrival Chez Grundy

  by Joe Grundy in

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  2. friends

  dear friends.

  i am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than i had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:.

  my divorce decree absolute!.

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  Joe Grundy

  This is just my opinion, but I think some men suffer from the 'White Knight' syndrome (think 'John Wayne' for US friends) where we can 'rescue' some poor female and make her life better. I know I do, and I am a sucker for a hard-luck story and tears - especially from an attractive woman. I know that I'm not alone in this and in some ways it's the way we were brought up - the gentleman going to the aid of the lady in distress.

  Crazy, really, of course - particularly in modern times (and in Western cultures) where sexual equality prevails. I don't think it's necessarily a generational thing. But I still open doors and give up my seat for a woman or carry bags for her.

  Unforunately (again IMO) there are some women who recognise and take advantage of this.
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  New Arrival Chez Grundy

  by Joe Grundy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends.

  i am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than i had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:.

  my divorce decree absolute!.

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  Joe Grundy

  Many thanks for all your comments.

  I should make it absolutely clear that I am not making any generalised judgemental comments about women from a particular country or region.

  Re. 'sweet and submissive' women - I am sure that some (or many) Western men have this misconception, and some SEA women play on this. I had a couple of relationships with SEA ladies before I met my ex-wife and I certainly wasn't looking for her to be anything other than an equal partner. There was a lot of deception and she is a good actress and manipulator. But I wish her well - it's not my problem any more.
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  New Arrival Chez Grundy

  by Joe Grundy in

  1. jw
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  dear friends.

  i am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than i had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:.

  my divorce decree absolute!.

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  Joe Grundy

  "Try not letting your smaller head make your decisions in the future."

  This is a very valid comment. Some/many/most - me - men are susceptible to sexual influence. I had had a number of girlfriends/experiences after my (first) divorce in 2002 and I didn't think that I was so susceptible. I was, of course. Sadly, FP's new boyfriend is even more so. He's 67, and I bet (sorry to be crude here) it was a long, long time before he met her that he'd had a BJ.

  I was a cop for 30 years, and I dealt with lots (more than I want to remember) of domestic violence of all kinds (yes, including emotional, verbal, psychological and so on).

  It is somewhat humbling when you are the one who has to call '911' ('999' here) and the police response car is crewed by a woman sergeant who had just joined when you retired as her boss and her newer female colleague!

  But as I get a little older and hopefully wiser I can accept that we're all human with all our weaknesses. I was glad when the cops arrived and I wasn't too proud to accept their help.

  Now is the time to move on. I too find it hard to trust a woman. Maybe I've just met too many with their own agenda, looking for a meal ticket. The hard bit is weeding out those from the majority of people (women) who are genuine.
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  New Arrival Chez Grundy

  by Joe Grundy in

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  dear friends.

  i am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than i had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:.

  my divorce decree absolute!.

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  Joe Grundy

  (Just seen your edit): She threw a plate first (missed and hit the wall) then went back to the kitchen (I was ironing her work uniform, IIRC) and got my best (large) kitchen knife, which she threw at my chest. I was lucky to deflect it with my hand (scar still there) and had a bit of a bleed-out. I had my mobile phone in pocket and luckily paramedics and police came quickly. (Gave the neighbours something to look at, but was quite embarrassing - I used to be police area commander here).

  I was treated, she was arrested.

  Not all victims of domestic violence are women.
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  New Arrival Chez Grundy

  by Joe Grundy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends.

  i am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than i had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:.

  my divorce decree absolute!.

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  Joe Grundy

  The marriage was in May 2009. Much hard work got her UK visa, and we came to UK two days before Xmas 2010.

  The knife attack was July 2011 and I moved out. She lived in the house (I paid the rent and bills). A week after I moved out, boyfriend started spending nights there. (I was unaware of this). Ten weeks later, she moved in with new boyfriend - and his former partner and their young DS child. Unbelievable!

  And, BTW, can I just say this for the info of all readers. THERE IS NO DIVORCE IN THE PHILIPPINES.

  Yes, I received an official government document (100% genuine) showing that my FP was married at 21 and had a son in the Phils. She denied the marriage, of course.

  Was I ever legally married to her? Don't know, and to be honest now I don't even really care. I am confident that I did my best in difficult circumstances. I am also confident that I won't easily be taken for a fool again anytime soon.
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  New Arrival Chez Grundy

  by Joe Grundy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends.

  i am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than i had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:.

  my divorce decree absolute!.

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  Joe Grundy

  Thank you.

  I met and married my FP within a month while in Cyprus. The marriage was in haste because of (her) immigration status problems, and it took me a great deal of time, effort and money to bring her to the UK. Outsiders realised what was happening - and warned me - but 'there is none so blind as he that will not see'.

  Now, I have a clear run at life ahead. Sad, of course, because I would not have married this woman if I was not in love with her. I have a knife scar - she has a police record.

  I hope that I have learnt a lesson.
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  New Arrival Chez Grundy

  by Joe Grundy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends.

  i am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than i had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:.

  my divorce decree absolute!.

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  Joe Grundy

  Dear Friends

  I am delighted to announce that after a difficult conception, a longer than hoped for gestation period, a higher cost than I had hoped for, and all the associated gubbins, the delivery was successful:

  My divorce Decree Absolute!

  I have made many mistakes in my life, and have been taken for a fool (strange for a 30 year cop!) but at last my divorce from my Filipina Princess is finalised. She found a new boyfriend (older but richer than me) within a week or so.

  I have no idea what lies ahead but whatever it is, now I know that I can seize any and every opportunity that comes my way.
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  What do you replace it with?

  by konceptual99 in

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  2. friends

  so... i am coming to the conclusion that pretty much all of the doctrinal stuff that i have believed for 25/30 years is built on a house of cards and it's about to come crashing down.

  question is what do i replace it with?.

  my intellectual head says that that whole thing is junk and there is almost certainly no god at all.

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  Joe Grundy

  "I feel no burning need to replace the "truth" with anything at all."

  That's probably the best place to be. Question, question everything - you owe it to yourself as a sentient being. Good luck.
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  Pictures of the Governing Body Members doing Personal Study

  by Iamallcool in

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  2. bible

  http://www.tj-archives.org/2012/06/personal-photos-of-members-of-governing.html.

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  Joe Grundy

  This is just a random thought, but why would anyone 'worship' these bozos?